To Call or Not to Call

To Call or Not to Call –

I may be dating myself here but who remembers Jon Favreau’s great dilemma in Swingers? How many days do you wait to call after a great date? (Scroll down to “How long do I wait to call?” (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0117802/quotes) My answer and any dating coach, matchmaker or person with an ounce of common sense will tell you the next day. Call, email, text, Tweet, Facebook, whatever you need to do but let her know you had a good time and you want to see her again. In fact, let her know that night. At the end of the date, just tell her how much fun you had and that you would like to see her again. Keep it simple, light, fun – with an air of confidence. Now having said this, I really don’t recommend calling on the way home – leave a little time for her to actually want to hear from you! Calling the next day to say what a great time you had and to ask her out again is perfect.

Now, ladies, the key here is to actually answer the phone, reply to the text or Tweet or Facebook in a timely manner. This, in case you need it defined, is about 24 hours.

There is a distinct difference between the chase and playing games. At this point in our lives, let’s leave the games to the kids.

…happily,
kim

Meeting someone new - Keep it Light!

A couple of nights ago, I was out with a girlfriend having wine at the bar at Roy’s. We were on the harbor so most people at the bar were either here for business or lived on a yacht (tough life) - so it seemed. At any rate, a gentleman began chatting us up and it was a fun conversation until he began to tell us a story about how he almost died when he was 23. He went into grueling details about this motorcycle accident and the impact it had on his life. The mood completely changed and neither my girlfriend nor I really had any desire to keep the conversation going after that. It wasn’t that we didn’t care or didn’t think it was a horrific experience for him – it was just that it had been a long day of meetings and we really wanted to unwind. It got me thinking about another friend of mine that seems to have trouble meeting people – she is dead serious all of the time.


I am not implying that you should change your personality. I am just suggesting that a little light-hearted conversation goes a long way.

Keys to success when meeting someone new –

1) Ask the other person questions about themselves – be engaging.

2) Make light-hearted (inoffensive) jokes.

3) Tell relevant & brief stories.

4) Make eye contact & smile.

5) Have fun!

…happily, kim

Love Like A Four Year Old...

This past weekend was my best friend’s wedding – so many displays of traditional love! A cute little chapel, a beautiful white gown, gushing bride and groom and a half drunken wedding party… but as wonderful as it all was, none of it struck me the way these two four year olds did. An adorable little blonde with big brown eyes and her nails freshly manicured. A handsome young brunette with his hair disheveled and a super wide grin. There was chemistry the instant they met – shy at first until their parents assured them it was ok. They soon were holding hands everywhere they went. The instant one walked into the room they immediately asked for the other one and then would run up and hug each other. My favorite moment was the bus ride home. The little boy was already seated when the little girl got on the bus with her mom. He looks at his dad and tells him he has to go, he runs up to her, sits down next to her and drapes her arm over his shoulder. They both grin from ear to ear, whispering secrets to each other and ride home that way. This is how we should love - with our hearts on our sleeves and worries at bay.




…happily,
kim

Top 5 San Diego Weekend Ideas...

Want to meet someone new or just get out of the house? Take advantage of the best time of year in San Diego - the tourists are gone but the secret is, it still feels a lot like summer out!! And the Chargers don't play until Monday so there's NO EXCUSE!

5) The Padres are in town this weekend - girls, there may be a male sportsfan or two.  It's the perfect time of year for a night game!

4) Brazilian Independence Parade & Street Fair - art, food, dancing - need I say more? Oh, Garnet Avenue, Pacific Beach, noon - six pm, Saturday.

3) ArtWalk on the Bay - At the Embarcadero Marina Park North on both Saturday & Sunday.  Grab or friend or head out solo (and meet a fellow aficionado) to appreciate some of San Diego's finest art, sculpture & photography! http://www.artwalkonthebay.org/

2) Sunday kicks off Restaurant Week in San Diego - make a reservation & try something new! http://www.sandiegorestaurantweek.com/

1) My favorite part about this weekend is that the beaches are ours again - soak it up!

Whatever you do this weekend, do not sit at home, you'll never meet anyone new that way!

...happily,
Kim

Mr Postman...

In Starbuck's this morning I started to sing-a-long, "Oh, Mr Postman, look & see if there's a letter in the bag for me".  If it's not ringing a bell, I'm referring to the Marvelettes version not Lily Wayne's.  What a great feel good song - I found myself instantly happier (could have been the steaming cup of joe but we'll assume not).   Then I started chuckling to myself (I'm sure at this point people are staring between the early morning spontaneous singing & random laughter) waiting for a letter - once the only means of communication - must have been torture.  Or is it worse now? Checking your work voicemail, your home voicemail, the cell - a text or a voicemail or anything really? Login - email, Facebook, tweet, something already! Does anyone get excited anymore when they check the mail? A friend of mine has a stationary business and often reminds us the lost of art of the written note and I have to admit I LOVE when I get letters. But I also love sweet voicemails, funny emails & even a nice post on my Facebook wall.

If you like someone let them know - whatever your preferred form of communication.

...happily, kim

And we're off!!!

It took me slightly longer than anticipated but am happy to report that we are open for business! Just in time for Jennifer Aniston's, highly anticipated new movie "Love Happens". I agree, it does!

All kidding aside, I am truly thrilled and hope you all will join me on this journey of enlightened blogs, entertaining tweets, and inspiring vlogs (video blogs, I just learned this term).  I also hope you will send all of your single friends my way so I can help them find happily ever after.

Stay tuned...next up...launch party!