To Call or Not to Call

To Call or Not to Call –

I may be dating myself here but who remembers Jon Favreau’s great dilemma in Swingers? How many days do you wait to call after a great date? (Scroll down to “How long do I wait to call?” (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0117802/quotes) My answer and any dating coach, matchmaker or person with an ounce of common sense will tell you the next day. Call, email, text, Tweet, Facebook, whatever you need to do but let her know you had a good time and you want to see her again. In fact, let her know that night. At the end of the date, just tell her how much fun you had and that you would like to see her again. Keep it simple, light, fun – with an air of confidence. Now having said this, I really don’t recommend calling on the way home – leave a little time for her to actually want to hear from you! Calling the next day to say what a great time you had and to ask her out again is perfect.

Now, ladies, the key here is to actually answer the phone, reply to the text or Tweet or Facebook in a timely manner. This, in case you need it defined, is about 24 hours.

There is a distinct difference between the chase and playing games. At this point in our lives, let’s leave the games to the kids.

…happily,
kim