Is Your Heart Half-Full?

Have you ever heard the expression "fake it, 'til you make it"? Early on in sales that was drilled into our heads and it's true for so many different areas of your life.  Really all it means is to be positive and confident so that people want to work with you or in this case, be around you.  We all have that friend (or some of us, multiple) that is a constant Debbie Downer - the person who always gets parking tickets, the printer jams on them, the mailman always delivers their mail to the neighbor. Nothing ever goes their way. The Negative Nancy that can turn a beautiful picnic on a sunny day, on a grassy hill, overlooking the ocean at sunset into a ant infested, lactose intolerant, grass is in my champagne & will that damn sun ever set picnic.  You don't want to be around those types of people...do you want to date them, spend the rest of your life with them? Right, so no one else does either.  I'm not saying you can't have bad days. I'm not saying you can't get pissed at some jerk that stands you up.  What you can't do - is harp on it.  Or carry it around with the belief that all men are jerks and you're too late you missed the bus...all the good ones are taken. 

Listen to me on this one - if you act like this, you will stay single. You might as well, get 17 cats, start making your own clothes and have a deal with Netflix that a new movie will arrive every Friday night.  Because you will most certainly be alone unless you find someone equally miserable & then you should run out get matching snuggies.

If you don't believe me you will surely believe the Millionaire Matchmaker - she mentions it in part of her new book and in an interview with LimeLife Blog.  She says essentially the same thing - you have to ditch the baggage. When you let it all go then your soul and your heart are open to love. 

If you really want proof read "Meeting your Half-Orange" by Amy Spencer (I HIGHLY recommend this book by the way) or really any book about optimism out there. 

Keep your heart half full & have faith...love will come.

happily,
kim

Wastes of Time

It sounds so harsh and hypocritical coming from me since I tend to tell people to go out with people outside of their "mold" and even to give it more than one date. However, I mean like a handful of dates to let the awkwardness die off a bit - not months or even years of wasted time.  We've all done it - held on to something because it was comfortable or we were too scared to start over. These are "better than nothing" relationships and they are time sucks.  Roadblocks to real relationships.
So then why do we do it?

• security
• we think it is all we can get
• or all we deserve
• or we are scared to date

What do these relationships do to us?

• chip away at our self esteem
• drain us emotionally
• keep us from meeting the right person

How do you know if you are in WOT relationship? You know.  I could create a list of questions for you to ponder over your morning coffee but if you are reading this and can relate to any portion.  You know and you know what you need to do.

Rip it off like a band-aid. 


happily,
kim

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...happily,
kim

Love Like A Four Year Old...

This past weekend was my best friend’s wedding – so many displays of traditional love! A cute little chapel, a beautiful white gown, gushing bride and groom and a half drunken wedding party… but as wonderful as it all was, none of it struck me the way these two four year olds did. An adorable little blonde with big brown eyes and her nails freshly manicured. A handsome young brunette with his hair disheveled and a super wide grin. There was chemistry the instant they met – shy at first until their parents assured them it was ok. They soon were holding hands everywhere they went. The instant one walked into the room they immediately asked for the other one and then would run up and hug each other. My favorite moment was the bus ride home. The little boy was already seated when the little girl got on the bus with her mom. He looks at his dad and tells him he has to go, he runs up to her, sits down next to her and drapes her arm over his shoulder. They both grin from ear to ear, whispering secrets to each other and ride home that way. This is how we should love - with our hearts on our sleeves and worries at bay.




…happily,
kim